Comments on: The Milestone Competition http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/ Moms of Multiples Tell it Like it Is Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:42:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Betsy http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-542 Betsy Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:34:09 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-542 You said exactly what I've experienced! My boys are identical as well and until they arrived on the scene 11 months ago, I compared my daughter to all kinds of other kids. Not anymore! Now, I'm just awaiting the imminent crawler to take off and thinking how glad I am that the other is still sitting peacefully in one spot! It'll be all I can do to keep up with the first Mr. Curious.... You said exactly what I’ve experienced! My boys are identical as well and until they arrived on the scene 11 months ago, I compared my daughter to all kinds of other kids. Not anymore! Now, I’m just awaiting the imminent crawler to take off and thinking how glad I am that the other is still sitting peacefully in one spot! It’ll be all I can do to keep up with the first Mr. Curious….

]]> By: Cassandra http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-46 Cassandra Wed, 20 Feb 2008 19:50:47 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-46 I could not agree more! I haven't experienced the competiveness with other moms (I rarely get out of the house, anyway, LOL), but having twins sure has been a study in contrasts. I find it fasinating that children coming from the same two parents and raised in the exact same environment can have such different temperaments and progress through their developmental milestones at such varied paces. It really gives me perspective on babies and children and the world. :) Great topic! I could not agree more! I haven’t experienced the competiveness with other moms (I rarely get out of the house, anyway, LOL), but having twins sure has been a study in contrasts. I find it fasinating that children coming from the same two parents and raised in the exact same environment can have such different temperaments and progress through their developmental milestones at such varied paces. It really gives me perspective on babies and children and the world. :) Great topic!

]]> By: craftylissa http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-44 craftylissa Wed, 20 Feb 2008 17:09:56 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-44 Great topic! Having twins has been like having a pyschology experiment right in my own home. It's amazing to see how they develop differently. Great topic! Having twins has been like having a pyschology experiment right in my own home. It’s amazing to see how they develop differently.

]]> By: Krissy http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-41 Krissy Wed, 20 Feb 2008 15:34:57 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-41 I find myself falling into this trap sometimes, but then I see how foolish it is to compare my son and daughter, as they are SO DIFFERENT, and they came out of the same womb at the same time! I have made this point to my friends who have little ones, and slowly but surely to my family, who see it as a sign of good healthy that my kids are doing things before other kids we know. (But heaven help if they are "behind" in an area!) I think we are programmed from the beginning, with birthweight bragging, to compare. Great perspective, and I will try to do better! I was also thinking this week that I should stop trying to get my kids to show off their milestone accomplishments to friends and family as though they are trained monkeys...but when my son claps his hands AND feet, it is pretty hysterical. I find myself falling into this trap sometimes, but then I see how foolish it is to compare my son and daughter, as they are SO DIFFERENT, and they came out of the same womb at the same time! I have made this point to my friends who have little ones, and slowly but surely to my family, who see it as a sign of good healthy that my kids are doing things before other kids we know. (But heaven help if they are “behind” in an area!)

I think we are programmed from the beginning, with birthweight bragging, to compare. Great perspective, and I will try to do better! I was also thinking this week that I should stop trying to get my kids to show off their milestone accomplishments to friends and family as though they are trained monkeys…but when my son claps his hands AND feet, it is pretty hysterical.

]]> By: LauraC http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-40 LauraC Wed, 20 Feb 2008 15:34:41 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-40 This is near and dear to my heart!!! Since day one, my boys have been doing things so differently that I can easily see their strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes it's hard to relate that to first-time moms to singletons... that sometimes our kids do things in spite of our efforts! This is near and dear to my heart!!! Since day one, my boys have been doing things so differently that I can easily see their strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes it’s hard to relate that to first-time moms to singletons… that sometimes our kids do things in spite of our efforts!

]]> By: Staci http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-38 Staci Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:48:29 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-38 Having twins has made me realize "every baby is truely different" Even though they were born at the same time and are raised in the same house. They are very different. Having twins has made me realize “every baby is truely different” Even though they were born at the same time and are raised in the same house. They are very different.

]]> By: Rebecca http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/the-milestone-competition/#comment-37 Rebecca Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:31:54 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=45#comment-37 My pet peeve this week, moms of twins who feel the need to tell me how fantastic (their) twins are, how well they're doing with them, how well they sleep....etc, etc...Makes me feel like the worst mom ever that I've been frustrated with my clingy, still somewhat sick babies all week. It's just another kind of competition....what a great job the mom is doing! My pet peeve this week, moms of twins who feel the need to tell me how fantastic (their) twins are, how well they’re doing with them, how well they sleep….etc, etc…Makes me feel like the worst mom ever that I’ve been frustrated with my clingy, still somewhat sick babies all week. It’s just another kind of competition….what a great job the mom is doing!

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