Comments on: Inquiring twin moms want to know

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 04:40:36 +0000

I had so much fun telling everyone the news it was twins!!! All day long i would call people and say “guess what it is?” And they would say GIRL and I would say AND!! Some people would scream, some wouldnt get it! But it did get a cabin full of girls screaming! Probably my second favorite moment after finding out!

By: mamie

mamie — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 03:38:57 +0000

i, too, despise the fertility question. it just seems so intimate and personal. and, no, we did not do fertility. biggest surprise ever at my 13 week appt, first visit with my OB (saw my family doc until then because everything was ‘normal’.)…i thought i had a two headed baby. thanks to my healthcare job, that was my first thought when i viewed the US screen. and to finish up, 36 weeks on the dot, 12 weeks of strict bedrest (at home, thank the lord) with regular doses of multiple meds, came in at 4.12 and 6.4 one minute apart via c-section. no NICU at all….i highly recommend delivering at huntington hospital if you are near pasadena, we likened our five day stay to a “vegas trip with babies”. we just hit 10 months yesterday and they are healthy, fun, crazy little boys that decided walking was it this past week. lord help me.

By: LeAnn

LeAnn — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 02:50:03 +0000

These are great questions…being that I have b/g twins, I do get the question “Are they identical” and I just politely say “no” (giggling in my mind). A question that I get is “Do twins run in your family”? I also get the comment “OH a boy and a girl, you must be done right? One stop shop!”…

I was lucky to find out right away, had to have an US because I had to menstral cycles in march, so we needed a due date, and then there was 2…I delivered at 34 weeks, 1 vaginal, 1 c-sec, 2 and half weeks in NICU…no major problems, just getting them to nipple feed and keep their saturations up…

By: Staci

Staci — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 01:35:42 +0000

Ha these questions crack me up. Some people are so nosey. My twins were born 2 minutes apart, vaginal! I went very very fast. I am amazed at the people that find out so late. They probably thought “why the heck am I bigger than most pregnant women”
Another one I get alot. It’s more of a comment. “you must be done you have a boy and a girl” I just smile and say “no I would like more.” They then stare with a blank look thinking I must be crazy!

By: craftylissa

craftylissa — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 22:38:20 +0000

I found out at 19 weeks! We did like LauraC - called everyone and said, “We had our ultrasound! We know that one of them is a boy!” Then the family had their freak out (with excitement, I think) and then asked, “wait, why did you say ‘one of them’?”

Other question from twin moms - nursing or bottlefeeding? and how’s that going?

The one I hate from everyone else - did you do fertility?

By: LauraC

LauraC — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 21:02:16 +0000

Cheryl’s comment reminded me… we found out at our big ultrasound at 18 weeks. Everyone knew we were having our big ultrasound so we called people and said, “We’re having a boy!” then we’d wait for the big congratulations and then we’d say, “AND ANOTHER BOY!”

By: mommy1

mommy1 — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:55:25 +0000

Great post! As a twin mom, I always get those same questions. They look right at my girls and say, “are they identical?” ( They look nothing alike anymore, they’re 2 and a half, with about a five pound difference.) I just smile, and say no.
My favorite question is “what did you say when you found out?” I always think, “wow, they’re really asking me this again.” I tell them, I asked the doctor was he kidding, which I did. And again, I just smile.

By: cheryllage

cheryllage — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:55:17 +0000

On the J Lo tip, I read in a couple of places that the babies’ births were 11 minutes apart…so I’m guessing vaginal (ours were 7 apart going that route). From what I’ve gleaned, c-section births tend (not always, but tend) to occur within a very few (if not a couple) of minutes.

Now maybe, she was a “one via each path” mama, but my gut says no.

On the questions, I ALWAYS ask “How long did you keep ‘em in?” (largely because I never minded being asked…) Thought J Lo’s’ babies’ birth weights were great…ours were born at 36 weeks, 5 days (dodged NICU altogether) and were 5 14 and 4 14…wondering if she was around 36-38 weeks or so.

One thing do I ask (if not keeping the askee twin mama from her tasks at hand) is how did you spring the news to relatives and what was the reaction. Have heard some wonderful tales.

By: Goddess in Progress

Goddess in Progress — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 16:59:41 +0000

Good point, Rebecca. When I really think about it, the “when did you find out” is more of an other-people question. I don’t actually ask it that often, I think I’m just floored when people find out at 20 weeks, since I knew so early.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 15:45:01 +0000

I can always tell if someone has twins, or knows someone who has, because the “how many weeks” question is number 1. (Or maybe two, after “how old are they?). I had a grandmother of twins ask me that the other day (outside of DD, a key place for moms of twins) and her twin grandchilden were 29 weekers! Am I the only one who has had the “when did you find out?” question open the door to more personal questions than you wanted to address? “Why did you have an ultrasound at 6 weeks?” “You were at an inferility center?” “Why?” “How old are you?” “You’re not old enough to need IVF!” (Um, thanks for the last one. My body (and doctor) seemed to disagree with you.)