Comments on: Celebrate the Similarity http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/celebrate-the-similarity/ Moms of Multiples Tell it Like it Is Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:28:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Emily http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/celebrate-the-similarity/#comment-1037 Emily Wed, 09 Apr 2008 17:31:47 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=457#comment-1037 I have fraternal 7-month boys, but I still find myself thinking, "Josh is the fussy one," or "Nate is the one who doesn't warm up to new people as quickly." Then I realized that I shouldn't think of it in relation to each other - I'm trying not to make everything a comparison between them. I think there's a pitfall in thinking that twins have to be opposites in everything. One's outgoing so the other has to be shy. They can both be outgoing! I'm sure this is nothing new to other twin moms, but it took me several months to figure this out on my own... I have fraternal 7-month boys, but I still find myself thinking, “Josh is the fussy one,” or “Nate is the one who doesn’t warm up to new people as quickly.” Then I realized that I shouldn’t think of it in relation to each other - I’m trying not to make everything a comparison between them.

I think there’s a pitfall in thinking that twins have to be opposites in everything. One’s outgoing so the other has to be shy. They can both be outgoing! I’m sure this is nothing new to other twin moms, but it took me several months to figure this out on my own…

]]> By: mamie http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/celebrate-the-similarity/#comment-1036 mamie Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:20:48 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=457#comment-1036 i can see how with identicals it would be even more important to mama to see them as individuals. we have the enviable position of watching two (or more) establish themselves as little people, but it also challenges us to let them be....ahhh, tins (or more). i can see how with identicals it would be even more important to mama to see them as individuals. we have the enviable position of watching two (or more) establish themselves as little people, but it also challenges us to let them be….ahhh, tins (or more).

]]> By: Pamela Fierro http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/celebrate-the-similarity/#comment-1035 Pamela Fierro Wed, 09 Apr 2008 15:52:02 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=457#comment-1035 My girls are nearly 13 now, and I have struggled with this for their entire lives. They funny thing is ... as soon as you think you've "defined" them in some way (she's more outgoing, she's more shy), they will switch!!! They are who they are, at turns shy or outgoing, finicky or adventurous, clingy or independent, leader or follower, grumpy or happy. Especially as new teens, you never know what you will get from day to day. Don't think of them in absolutes ... one of them is THIS and the other is THAT. They are incredibly similar and amazingly distinct at the same time. It's one of the most fascinating aspects of being a mother of twins. My girls are nearly 13 now, and I have struggled with this for their entire lives. They funny thing is … as soon as you think you’ve “defined” them in some way (she’s more outgoing, she’s more shy), they will switch!!! They are who they are, at turns shy or outgoing, finicky or adventurous, clingy or independent, leader or follower, grumpy or happy. Especially as new teens, you never know what you will get from day to day.

Don’t think of them in absolutes … one of them is THIS and the other is THAT. They are incredibly similar and amazingly distinct at the same time. It’s one of the most fascinating aspects of being a mother of twins.

]]> By: Rebecca http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/2008/04/09/celebrate-the-similarity/#comment-1034 Rebecca Wed, 09 Apr 2008 14:36:07 +0000 http://howdoyoudoit.wordpress.com/?p=457#comment-1034 So tricky, isn't it, to always try to do the right thing! I think that as long as you are thinking about these issues, you are doing great. I often consider myself lucky that my twins are different genders, simply because it is easier for me (and others) to see them as individuals. Of course, it's also easy to gender stereotype them. It's always something! So tricky, isn’t it, to always try to do the right thing! I think that as long as you are thinking about these issues, you are doing great. I often consider myself lucky that my twins are different genders, simply because it is easier for me (and others) to see them as individuals. Of course, it’s also easy to gender stereotype them. It’s always something!

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