Comments on: A little piece of me back

By: Sadia

Sadia — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 19:15:48 +0000

Once my daughters were 6 months old, I stopped feeling like my self had been erased. I just incorporated the girls into my interests. When I wanted to spend time with my friends, I brought them along. If I felt like cooking, I set them up in the kitchen where they could watch. Once they were older, they had their own toy kitchen so they could play alongside me. While they played, I cross-stitched. I showed them the joys of picture-books while I read. If I wanted to go to a store, I turned it into a game of shape-hunt (”Find all the circles you can …”).

When my husband came home from Iraq, however, I started to feel like my self had disappeared again, not because he had so many demands of me, but because he had not yet learned to incorporate the girls into our lives. Even harder, he hadn’t learned how to mold his life into theirs. We’re working on it, all four of us.

By: CarrieinAK

CarrieinAK — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 17:23:57 +0000

Way to go, Laura! The 3-of-you picture is great.

I don’t think we’ll ever be less busy, just a different kind of busy. Like you, I waited for the magic time when things settled down and I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s never gonna happen. All the more of a reason to take time out for yourself, as far as I’m concerned!

By: mamie

mamie — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:48:48 +0000

Go LauraC! A 5K sounds like a full marathon to me, but I have been walking again and it helps sp much. It is hard to get those pieces back but when you do, Hold on to them.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:01:50 +0000

You are amazing, Laura! Good for you…not merely for getting a piece of “you” back, but for demonstrating a commitment to something you enjoy…and that’s healthy!
Role-modeling is a very powerful thing…and from a very early age. (Hence my twins’ passion for Krispy Kreme; I need to take a page from your book!)
Kudos to you, Twin Mama!

By: Ginny

Ginny — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 14:13:32 +0000

Great topic!! I love knowing that one day I will be running again! I miss training for half marathons!!! You look great in the picture!

By: Goddess in Progress

Goddess in Progress — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:51:24 +0000

Rockstar! I love that picture, by the way. The sunglasses really make it. Two dudes, maxin’ and relaxin’ in the BOB…

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:45:29 +0000

Congratulations on running your race! I’m not surprised it was slower time—how much weight were you pushing in front of you?

Important topic, I think. It’s so easy for “mommy” to get lost in the shuffle. For me, my teaching and schoolwork is part of who mommy is. Ah, the joy of using my brain! I also get two yoga classes in a week, and often use post-bedtime hours for pleasure reading or a bit of guilty tv watching.